Malena Henderson's Notes On:

Day 1

GrowthDay 2025

What started as a great way to get "aligned" with life, business, and relationships, my husband Matt and I purchased tickets the moment they went on sale.

Unfortunately, Matt and our dog Marty ended up not being able to make the trip. So, this became a solo adventure for me into the unbelievable world of GrowthDay!

These are my personal notes from the event. I am not associated with Brendon Burchard, GrowthDay or Ultra. Any links on this site are affiliate links and I will receive a small commission if you use them to purchase any product.

Our #1 Job

Summon & Activate

  • If the best version of you showed up, what would that character look like?

  • Are you the reactor in the scene or the Director of the character?

  • Always enter a scene with intention

Director vs. Character

  • Summon and activate the best of who you are

  • Be a bigger priority for yourself; when you improve self, you help others improve

Align & Activate

  • What are the 3 big goals or reasons you need to activate?

  • Alignment

    • Things have aligned in the past; have faith they're aligning for the future

    • Must stay vigilant with realigning when off course or discouraged

  • Activation

    • MOVE! Get in play state

    • Activate to generate joy, generate happiness, generate wealth

What started as a great way to get "aligned" with life, business, and relationships, my husband Matt and I purchased tickets the moment they went on sale.

Unfortunately, Matt and our dog Marty ended up not being able to make the trip. So, this became a solo adventure for me into the unbelievable world of GrowthDay!

These are my personal notes from the event. I am not associated with Brendon Burchard, GrowthDay or Ultra. Any links on this site are affiliate links and I will receive a small commission if you use them to purchase any product.

Overcoming Being Stuck: Levels of Growth and Ascendancy

Understanding Feeling Stuck

  • Feeling stuck = suffering when things aren't changing

  • People feel stuck in various areas: health, marriage, business, revenue, career

  • Key question: Why don't you get aligned and activated?

  • Same fear affects people differently - some face it, others avoid it

  • Two roles in the room: learning for yourself and as a leader

  • Personal development isn't about fixing immediate problems but leveling up

Levels of Consciousness and Being

  • Different levels of consciousness define species and progress

    • Matter (rocks) - Plants - Animals - Humans

      • Humans uniquely can see and scale beyond biological/species needs. We have “capax universi” (ability to internalize the universe)

  • Levels apply to personal growth, progress, love, capability

  • Important to acknowledge we're at different levels than before (e.g., high school vs. college, college vs. now)

  • Certainty vs. Curiosity

    • Certainty = stubbornness, less questioning or seeking

    • Curiosity = we need to stay vigilant, curious, and dynamic

FADE Framework

  • F = Fatigue

    • Tired at current level - just too tired at this level to level up

    • Need to identify where you’re fatigued; mentally, spiritually, emotionally or biologically

    • Remember - our current energy levels are primarily determined by last 72 hours of sleep, food, recovery (need to optimize to ensure our fatigue happens less

  • A = Aimlessness

    • Wandering with no aim, distracted - distraction is stealing our destiny

    • Phone/technology creates a prison-like distraction

    • More aimless days lead to more time in the “pit”

  • D = Discouragement

    • When discouraged, people detach from motion

    • Need to release discouragement quickly and REACTIVATE

    • It’s okay to fall into the “pit” but we can’t stay down there; speed up our time to resilience

  • E = Ego

    • Separation from the moment, people, better strategies; “that’s just who I am” mentality

    • Makes you feel special, deserving but higher ego = more self-criticism

    • EGO (Edging God Out)

Deficiency Drive vs. Ascendancy Drive

  • Deficiency Drive - trying to fill a void

    • Driving life based on what’s missing (I need, have enough)

    • Boom and bust cycles

    • Fighting to return to homeostasis/victory is actually just the same level

  • Ascendancy Drive: leveling up!

    • As humans we look up; sky’s the limit, look up to the sun - upward aim

    • Growth mindset; shift from “why is this happening to me?” to “but what I want is..”

    • Be the director of your character, not the supporting role

MAPS Framework for Ascendancy

  • M = Motivation

    • Need to understand what is driving you; tap into inner drive

    • Doesn’t always mean enthusiasm/happiness

    • Can’t have discipline without motivation

  • A = Assertiveness

    • “Assert yourself back into play motion”

    • Clarity and directness of communication; “say it straight”

    • Example of using a sword; straight/forward/direct

  • P = Priority

    • We must manage competing interests; “I want to start my own thing but I need health benefits”

    • Achievement isn’t the problem, alignment is

    • Effort isn’t the problem, prioritization is

  • S = Socialize the journey

    • Be a role model, lead others

    • When in the "pit" we just fight for ourselves

    • When in ascendancy drive we're fighting for others

What started as a great way to get "aligned" with life, business, and relationships, my husband Matt and I purchased tickets the moment they went on sale.

Unfortunately, Matt and our dog Marty ended up not being able to make the trip. So, this became a solo adventure for me into the unbelievable world of GrowthDay!

These are my personal notes from the event. I am not associated with Brendon Burchard, GrowthDay or Ultra. Any links on this site are affiliate links and I will receive a small commission if you use them to purchase any product.

"Only two things change your life: Either something new comes into your life, or something new comes from within"

Brendon Burchard

Damon West: Becoming a Coffee Bean

Damon West

  • “If someone took control of your life tomorrow, what’s the first thing they would change?”

  • "Uptown Burglar"; 65-year prison sentence; served 7, on parole until 2073

  • Privileged background: two-parent home, nice town, successful athlete

  • Congress, then stockbroker at UBS when tried crystal meth - lost everything w/in 18 months

  • Became coffee bean in prison; took on fights, dealt w/hard stuff but also helped educate inmates, became chapel clerk

  • Parole officer said he didn’t just change himself; he changed entire prison around him

  • Power is inside of us; we can BE THE COFFEE BEAN

The Coffee Bean

  • Fellow inmate Muhammad told coffee bean metaphor

  • “Prison is like boiling water”

    • carrots become soft and weak

    • eggs become hard and bitter

    • coffee beans transform the water around them

  • Coffee bean represents our ability to transform our environment vs. it changing us

Coffee Bean Principles

  • Have positive body language everywhere you go

    • Smile is so powerful it creates chain reaction of positive energy

    • You either "infect" or "affect" every room you enter

  • Set a loop of accountability

    • Work on yourself daily; spiritually, mentally, physically

    • Daily prayer, exercise, mind work

  • Servant leadership

    • Help others reach their goals

    • Look for purpose in helping others; will find success

  • Understand what you can and can’t control

    • We can only control what we say, do, feel

    • Toughest prison is the prison in our mid

  • Your past does not define you

    • The past is a lesson (remember times you’ve won), present is a gift and future is motivation

    • Must persist through rejection and difficulties; you want to win?..get up!

Remember

  • Life is the pot of boiling water; hard, stressful, difficult but we can choose to be a coffee bean (vs. carrot or egg)

  • Integrity is what we do when no one is looking

What started as a great way to get "aligned" with life, business, and relationships, my husband Matt and I purchased tickets the moment they went on sale.

Unfortunately, Matt and our dog Marty ended up not being able to make the trip. So, this became a solo adventure for me into the unbelievable world of GrowthDay!

These are my personal notes from the event. I am not associated with Brendon Burchard, GrowthDay or Ultra. Any links on this site are affiliate links and I will receive a small commission if you use them to purchase any product.

Alignment and Activation for Personal Growth

"How Do We Ascend?"

Ascension and Alignment

  • Achievement is not the problem; alignment is (mental & physical)

  • As humans we try to ascend but hit challenges; we must realign to progress, or go up

  • We “FADE” (fatigue, aimless, discouraged, ego driven)

  • People try to "ascend" but face challenges

  • Our physical alignment connects to our mental alignment

    • Poor posture restricts breathing

    • Correct alignment provides more strength & flexibility

  • When we’re in alignment we get more power

  • Never limit vision of the future based on current circumstances

  • Live in our intention, not just the state

Energy and Mental Activation

  • Take breaks every 15 mins to realign

  • Energy - tapping technique while saying your intention, or 3 words

  • Mental - visualize energy, think of fireworks in your mind, deep breathing

Generator Mindset

  • Need to generate the things we want vs. waiting for it to happen.

    • “I’m generating wealth” vs. “I’m rich”

    • I choose growth

  • 3 reasons we generate

    • Aliveness (feel alive, energized)

    • Connection (relationship w/self and others)

    • Meaningful Pursuits (activities w/a purpose)

  • We must always choose to grow

    • Fall down? Recalibrate - aim high.

    • Fall? Recalibrate - aim high

We Get ZAP’d

  • Z - Zoom in on negative & catastrophize (this is scary so I’ll stop) vs. zoom out to see bigger picture and realign

  • A - Attach identity to the negative vs. connecting to something higher

  • P - Punish or procrastinate vs. progress and get back in the game, play state

Confidence

  • "belief in ability to figure things out"

  • Must look back and remember our past wins; give self credit for overcoming challenges

  • Speak w/encouragement about self

Alignment = Assignment

  • "Greater the alignment, greater the assignment"

  • TRUST that these present things are aligning for a positive future just like the past aligned to get us into Growth Day

"It's My Time!"

What started as a great way to get "aligned" with life, business, and relationships, my husband Matt and I purchased tickets the moment they went on sale.

Unfortunately, Matt and our dog Marty ended up not being able to make the trip. So, this became a solo adventure for me into the unbelievable world of GrowthDay!

These are my personal notes from the event. I am not associated with Brendon Burchard, GrowthDay or Ultra. Any links on this site are affiliate links and I will receive a small commission if you use them to purchase any product.