Malena Henderson's Notes On:

Day 3

GrowthDay 2025

What started as a great way to get "aligned" with life, business, and relationships, my husband Matt and I purchased tickets the moment they went on sale.

Unfortunately, Matt and our dog Marty ended up not being able to make the trip. So, this became a solo adventure for me into the unbelievable world of GrowthDay!

These are my personal notes from the event. I am not associated with Brendon Burchard, GrowthDay or Ultra. Any links on this site are affiliate links and I will receive a small commission if you use them to purchase any product.

Role Model Mindset

The Importance of Being a Role Model

  • 2 jobs in life

    • #1 Summon the best of who I am (for myself)

    • #2 Be a role model (for others)

  • When we do #1, we become an inspiration for others;those who consciously decide to lead and be role models cause ripple effects that change the world

  • Influence needs to be explicit; we can’t just think this way, we need to express it. When we pull ourselves out of the pit, others notice

Communication and Connection

  • We live in a society of poor communicators (look at Twitter); we’re not taught to communicate well

  • What we express becomes an example that perpetuates larger conversations

  • Speaking things into existence is more powerful than just thinking them

  • Take the good intentions, ideas, and dreams and share with the people around you

  • Ex: interview w/his father; he expressed the same values he spoke about, throughout his life

The Role Model Mindset

  • Role model mindset is a "master switch" for self-regulation

  • If you lack emotional control, you probably lack role model mindset

  • Believe in yourself and believe that you’re setting an example for others; believe in possibility

Need To Avoid

  • Detachment (from the moment); we need to lock into the moment, the upward path

  • Yo-You success, or inconsistency; strong 3 months and then fall off, super productive around holidays then doing nothing

  • Loneliness; surround yourself with other strivers

Five Things To Focus On

  • Mental Edge

    • Conviction, focus

    • Embrace challenge and push self beyond what's comfortable or easy

  • Poise

    • Composure when things aren’t going well, during the tough game

    • High self-regulation and professionalism

  • Leadership

    • Lead your family, friends

    • Start a movement or community

  • Longevity Practices

    • Taking care of health, both mental and physical

  • Wealth Building

    • Need to learn how to make money, increase sales, get promoted

    • Don’t be scared of people who make money, study them

What started as a great way to get "aligned" with life, business, and relationships, my husband Matt and I purchased tickets the moment they went on sale.

Unfortunately, Matt and our dog Marty ended up not being able to make the trip. So, this became a solo adventure for me into the unbelievable world of GrowthDay!

These are my personal notes from the event. I am not associated with Brendon Burchard, GrowthDay or Ultra. Any links on this site are affiliate links and I will receive a small commission if you use them to purchase any product.

Erwin McManus: Character Mastery

Erwin McManus

  • Founder of Mosaic

  • Author, speaker, fashion designer

  • "A moment can inspire us but a community can transform us"

Self Mastery

  • McManus fascinated by mastery in any domain/arena of life

  • Has tried many different pursuits to attain mastery

  • Describes meeting masters in various fields (violinists, painters, athletes, chess players)

  • Three dynamics involved in mastery:

    • Talent - internal ability

    • Discipline/Practice/Passion - need to love the discipline enough to elevate your talent

    • Process - wrong process lowers our ceiling (ex - playing tennis wrong)

Character Mastery

  • I have all of the talent necessary to be my optimal self

  • Don’t waste energy trying to be someone else

  • “I want to be the best version of myself” vs. “I want to be better than her”

  • “You can never be the best someone else"

  • You will be the worst version of you if you do not put the work in

Character Transformation

  • Character transformation is not a destination, it’s a journey

  • Quest for honor, enlightenment, nobility

  • Mastery of ourselves begins with COURAGE

    • Courage is not the absence of fear, but the absence of self

  • Courage comes from INTEGRITY

    • Integrity is what’s on the outside is the same as inside; does what it’s supposed to do (banana example)

  • We can choose integrity but often we choose to have a fake exterior that doesn’t match our true interior/character

Remember

  • The shape of your character is the shape of your future

  • The choices you make create the future you will live

  • When life gets hard, you’re going to learn a new lesson. If you retreat at the same pressure point every time, only learn the same lesson over & over

  • You gain wisdom through perseverance

What started as a great way to get "aligned" with life, business, and relationships, my husband Matt and I purchased tickets the moment they went on sale.

Unfortunately, Matt and our dog Marty ended up not being able to make the trip. So, this became a solo adventure for me into the unbelievable world of GrowthDay!

These are my personal notes from the event. I am not associated with Brendon Burchard, GrowthDay or Ultra. Any links on this site are affiliate links and I will receive a small commission if you use them to purchase any product.

"A lot of discovery happens on the other side of decision"

Brendon Burchard

Ed Mylett: Confidence & A Purposeful Life

Ed Mylett

  • "You were born to do something great with your life"

  • Speaker, coach, author, podcast

  • Struggled with confidence his whole life

  • Alcoholic/drug addict dad

  • Bullied as a child

  • Considers himself very introverted; goes from plane to hotel to room when traveling

Confidence

  • "Confidence bends reality"

  • Build confidence by keeping promises we make to ourselves

  • Rig the game in my favor; set up things I can control to give self confidence. Example of making your bed every morning

  • Make deposits into my "confidence bank" - be aware and acknowledge successes so have a big bank for when people take from it

  • Don’t predict confidence on the wrong things - example of buying fake Mercedes vs. driving a Honda

  • THE POWER OF ONE MORE

  • Give yourself credit for the things you’re doing

Trilogy of Self-Confidence

  • Faith

    • We spend every single day w/ourselves yet we allow negative self-talk

    • Need to become self aware of these negative thoughts when they come and change thinking

    • Faith that we were born in His likeness, to be something great; don’t give into doubt or discouragement but have faith in success

  • Intention

    • Think about our purpose rather than our abilities; focus on helping not impressing

    • Have good intentions, a pure heart, a true desire to help

    • Confidence comes from looking within, not comparing to others or measuring our results

  • Association

    • Surround ourselves with people who believe in us

    • The thermostat turns on and lowers temp in the room; our identity is the thermostat; it turns up or down to match the environment, or those around us.

  • + Standards

    • “You’re going to get your standards, not your goals”

    • Standard of One More - 1 more rep in the gym, 1 more phone call

    • Always do 1 more than required; might not have confidence in ability but have confidence in knowing you’ll outwork someone

  • + Mental Rehearsal

    • Our mind moves towards what it’s familiar with; envision the future, envision the goal; mind will go there faster

    • Must envision positive/success, not failure/defeat

    • “Your obsessions become your possessions”

Competitive

  • You want to change things? Start to get competitive

  • Compete with yourself; compete with what you’re capable of

  • Once you start getting wins, you get momentum

  • Example of son Max; same kid, same golf swing but he changed his mindset that day

  • Just go for it; we’re playing with house money

Remember

  • "You're most qualified in life to help the person you used to be"

  • “Earn this” clip from Saving Private Ryan; understand who we're earning life for

  • At the end, when we look back on our life, how can we answer the question “was I a good person?”

What started as a great way to get "aligned" with life, business, and relationships, my husband Matt and I purchased tickets the moment they went on sale.

Unfortunately, Matt and our dog Marty ended up not being able to make the trip. So, this became a solo adventure for me into the unbelievable world of GrowthDay!

These are my personal notes from the event. I am not associated with Brendon Burchard, GrowthDay or Ultra. Any links on this site are affiliate links and I will receive a small commission if you use them to purchase any product.

Optimism and Activation

Optimize and Activate

  • We must have optimism to have success; it enables us to move forward

  • Optimism is having faith in the forward position; believe the next day will be better

  • Most people don’t activate b/c they don’t have optimism; they don’t believe the future will be better

  • Think about our Ascendancy Mindset - we must believe in the future to go upward and succeed

  • Make the decision and then learn on the other side

    • We think we need to know everything first before we make the move but it’s the opposite

    • “A lot of discovery happens on the other side of decision”

    • “Play Motion”

Dara Ladjevardian: AI Revolution

Dara Ladjevardian

  • CEO/co-founder of Delphi

  • Founded Delphi to create digital versions of minds

  • Inspired by wanting to interview his deceased grandfather

  • Brendon AI

AI

  • Media has been training us to be afraid of AI since The Terminator

  • AI replicates human thought by using pattern recognition

  • LLM’s (large language model) are like “calculators for language” trained on human text. Instead of combining numbers it combines words

  • Ex - playing guess the next word with “Old Macdonald Had A Farm”

  • 3 yrs ago = 4th grade intelligence - now = PhD level

  • $500 Billion being spent on AI development

History of Progress

  • As humans we’re constantly trying to improve ourselves; we write books, hire teams, scale our thoughts

  • Always thinking of new ways to communicate

  • Cave drawings, printing press; flash led to YouTube; smartphones to WhatsApp

  • 1st Industrial Revolution: steam engine did manual work

  • 2nd Industrial Revolution: tractors eliminated manual farming

  • Radio: increased social connections around the world, podcasts

  • Internet: created the knowledge economy; we can learn anywhere in the world

  • AI Revolution: easier than ever to learn a skill

Future Vision of AI

  • AI will replace some routine tasks which allows us to think bigger

  • Replace tasks but not desire for human connection/entertainment

  • Instantaneous, free, hyper-intelligent AI that knows users well

  • Bring back sense of community and human connection which will be a scarce resource

  • Healthcare advancements; can think beyond our capabilities to cure disease

  • Renewable energy sources

Navigating AI

  • Our current “abundance era” with so much info at fingertips will lead to a desire for specialized or authentic/true era from trusted people

  • Know that AI makes mediocrity abundant; not everything is quality

  • Competition is coming; AI won’t “replace” us but someone using it will

Personal Success Frameworks

  • Steve Jobs quote: “Everything around you was made by people no smarter than you” so embrace this learning process

  • Our learning is endless - we don’t need to go to college for 4 years; can learn same amount in weeks - must focus on what we’re best at, what we love the most

  • Embrace uncertainty

  • Legacy - remember that what you develop today can last a lifetime

"Get In PLAY MOTION!"

What started as a great way to get "aligned" with life, business, and relationships, my husband Matt and I purchased tickets the moment they went on sale.

Unfortunately, Matt and our dog Marty ended up not being able to make the trip. So, this became a solo adventure for me into the unbelievable world of GrowthDay!

These are my personal notes from the event. I am not associated with Brendon Burchard, GrowthDay or Ultra. Any links on this site are affiliate links and I will receive a small commission if you use them to purchase any product.